Saturday, June 14, 2014

An aching

One time you saw me cry. You hate to see me cry, you said it was the worst thing you'd ever experienced, and how all you wanted to do was make it better and you hoped so badly you weren't the cause. 

One time you made me cry. You hate to see me cry, it hurt you and you pleaded forgiveness and begged my trust in your share of the pain. 

You're used to seeing me cry. Now, you almost expect it. It's losing its effect, your empathy, your remorse. 

You hate to see me cry.

Monday, June 2, 2014

A Confession

I have a confession to make.
For most of my life, I was unknowingly an advocate for rape culture. I was a misogynist. I thought women that weren't careful and gave it away for free were stupid and deserved shaming, taunting, to be degraded through sexual comments or exploited. I believed the watching and discussing of porn to be a healthy and fun lifestyle choice. I thought that openly commentating on an socially accepted form of "beauty" or "sexuality" by talking about a woman behind her back sexually with other men was okay. I thought that as a woman, I had a right to attract or hit on other women or treat them the way that other men would.

As a woman, I constantly disrespected other females because I felt a had a right to. This feeling of privilege and entitlement is the same issue as abuse from men, sexually, physically and mentally. By my admitting I acknowledged it being wrong for men to hit on me or comment about me sexually, yet me doing it other women, made me part of the problem.

It's time we all start coming to terms with this and realize that all people deserve some form of respect, and though respect shouldn't simply be handed out freely for being born a woman or a man or being alive, people deserve respect for their contributions to the universe, positive or negative. They are all part of the balance and the growth of humankind. Respect doesn't mean total agreement with everyone's choices and opinions, but it means accepting their right to have them and moving on with your own.