Monday, June 15, 2015

A Wisdom

It is true that while initiating the act of gathering knowledge for the purpose of attaining a higher form of intellect and development, one must also acquire wisdom.

Knowledge is the learning of things based on study, while wisdom is the learning of life based on experience. Both, in delicate balance, must be obtained for true enlightenment.

Such as the fanatic of faith is not a wise man without true knowledge, so to is the disciple of knowledge also not wise without a little faith.

 There is a fragile force of nature at work to be discovered, both through science and in spirit. You must be grounded on both sides to attune to it.

Monday, December 8, 2014

A Method for Change

To say "I'm only human" as justification for something that you shouldn't have done is like saying, "it's just a dog" when the dog chews up your favorite shoes. No, you train the dog to go against it's natural tendencies and you train it to be better. That's what you have to do for yourself. Train your thoughts and your actions to be only positive, to be pure, be genuine. Learn and apply your knowledge to better yourself constantly.

Wednesday, November 19, 2014

An Exercise in Change

Exercise reason, compassion and commitment to the betterment of yourself. Ask your own self "why", not just those with whom you disagree. Practicing the art of enlightenment will arouse change to your firmly held beliefs as you stray from the solidarity of the stubborn, stagnated and stale way you "have always been". Take the time for the meditation of you and reverse the consequences on your soul that years of apathy have given you.

Monday, November 3, 2014

Perspective

There comes a time when you take notice of the importance of recognizing your individual place and impact, a time when you change your perspective of wealth in the world.

You realize that if we stopped looking to our neighbour above to compare their wealth to ours, making us feel as though we have little and need to acquire more, then we could instead start looking to our neighbour below as a way to evaluate our wealth in the world and how much we really have. It is then that we will want for less and we will give back more.

Wednesday, October 15, 2014

the great dying

I hear you now as you step,
You believe you are safe,
Because your numbers are large
And you're governed by hate.

You whisper false knowledge
In a fire you pray,
Believing faith is a justice,
All that will remain.

The great dying before you,
Monument to your taste,
But I'd come for you all
Just to count the remains.

You think you know power,
You think you know pain,
But you'll know better when I come
And sever your reign.

I travel on air,
I travel in sleep,
I will find you and haunt you until you are weak.

My soul it will guide me,
Beasts inside, they impart,
You won't even see me
When I rip you apart.

And the blood you have spilled,
Will cover your house,
I will curse you and damn you and exile you out.

I will tear down your walls,
I'll take all that you have,
All you've done will mean nothing,
All your sins will be matched.

Think there's strength in yourself,
You'll quickly know truth,
That if I were to cross you
You'd burn through and through.



Sunday, October 12, 2014

a certain respect

Recently I watched the film "22 Jump Street". I sometimes enjoy the quirky humour and can appreciate the silliness of these mindless scripts.  

There was a particular scene that truly caught my interest, and though it was intended to be a harmless scene in it's philosophy and something easily relatable and recognizable in our society, it also had a very underlying  and subtle important message without even meaning to.

In one part of the movie, we see a character getting praised and complimented on his tremendous "accomplishment" of having sex. Sex is seen as a prize, a reward and the bragging of it is the flashing of the trophy. We see a man in particular being at the forefront for congratulating him on his "conquest". 

Cut to another scene later in the movie, when we see the man that once did the congratulating discover the woman involved in the sexual act was in fact his daughter. Now this man's opinion on the matter is the complete opposite. He is angry, he is in disbelief, he is upset. 

It brought up an interesting point that I am sure was missed by most that saw it... That this woman only deserved respect in the instance where the man knew who she was.

Now, in the other instance, had this woman had been a complete stranger to the man still, his opinion would have remained that she was a conquest to fulfill and he is proud of the man for his accomplishment, regardless of the woman's opinion or how it affected her. That never even crossed his mind. He would have completely disregarded the fact that somewhere out there was another man who was the father to this girl, who lay awake at night hoping his daughter was being safe in school. There is another man out there who hopes that his daughter is respected and that if someone were to mistreat her, that other men would come to her defense.  There is another man out there who thinks and feels about this girl the exact way he feels about his own daughter, so who better to understand, right? 

Instead of someone hearing of another's "accomplishment" of sex and thinking, "I am glad that wasn't my child or my sibling or my friend" while at the same time high-fiving the person and making them feel that they earn respect and are rewarded by their fellow peers for these types of acts, people  should hear another's story and react to it as if they knew all involved personally. Ask more about the one they were involved with, what they did for a living, how the night went. Giving that person a face, a name, a personality will bring to light that this person was in fact, a person and not a disposable object and that it's okay to make your friend feel bad if they mistreated them and have no intention of following through. That it's okay to make your friend aware that they shouldn't be bragging about this person if they really liked them, and if they didn't, that it should not have progressed the way it did. If more people reacted that way to their friends, then there are a lot of men and women out there who could sleep comfortably knowing that people would "have their back" and could protect their children, siblings, and friends when they can't. Everyone would feel safer knowing that someone out there will come to their defense instead of knowing the harsh reality that they are most likely going to be taken advantage of someday, because our society has embedded into our heads that sex is seen as a higher necessity over healthy, deep relationships. 

Why is it, I wonder, that we have to know or emotionally care for another person in order to consider them worthy of respect and protect them from degradation? All people deserve to be seen as a whole and complete person, free from pre-judgment and free from degrading remarks. 

More people need to stand up and come to the defense of other people who are mistreated, and things like, "what if that was your sister?" or, "how would you feel if someone judged you that way?" eventually won't even need to be said. 

Thursday, July 17, 2014

a body


My body is a physical vessel, a vessel that society demands must be clothed, but only in clothing that society deems appropriate and acceptable.

Women must look classy in the streets, so that when men or women objectify them it’s not their fault. Otherwise, when men or women objectify them, it is because they are asking for it. It is because society says watching porn is normal, and that everybody does it… It is acceptable as long as you don’t bring that into real life. Don’t look like a porn star outside of the bedroom, because that is socially unacceptable.

But what happens when the man brings it outside of the bedroom and objectifies the woman, anyway? What happens when the woman takes those expectations and those labels she learned from private and intimate settings and labels another girl as a “slut” for wearing ripped stockings or a crop top? 

People are made to judge and categorize everything they see based on the relatable facts and information that they have. Men cannot control their sexual nature, as it is hard wired in their brain, and judge what they see sexually. They are forgiven and rules are made around them, rules they never broke because they weren’t put there in the first place for them. We are taught to be cautious of what we do and who is around us by placing labels on people. This is good in a sense, but the focus is always on the physical appearance, and instead of it being used to identify a potentially bad or dangerous person, it is used to identify someone you just wouldn’t choose to socialize with or someone you choose to look down on. 

If what I am wearing is making you uncomfortable, evaluate what your idea of sexuality is and why I am making you feel this way. What have you learned? That what makes you aroused and what satisfies you in the bedroom is what you keep inside of your head all day, everyday, and every time it comes up in your life, your sexuality is triggered or threatened. Suddenly, you can’t even see a woman wearing short sorts in a laundry mat because that’s how that one porn started, or you can’t see a woman getting drunk with her girl friend because you can’t help but get aroused by the thought of it. Porn and sexual exploitation are all about power and control, about the ego, superficial and archaic. Generally, a man wants a woman that will degrade herself for him because she wants to and she likes it, because it pleases him, she wants to give him that control. In the worst cases, men watch hardcore porn where the women don’t want it, and they watch it for the same reasons. In the “fantasy world” of porn, men can have any woman he wants and she will always give herself to him or learn to like what is happening no matter what she does. That is the typical male fantasy, that their dick is so majestic that no one could ever not want it, as if demeaning a woman by making her give herself away to him is the only way she can show her affection and care for that man.

So, most men go out into the world thinking that all women are fair game and he is somehow entitled to at least try or attempt a connection with any of them. They pick their targets and they do it based on the outside appearance, who triggers that sexual fantasy for them in their head. Women can’t just wear clothes that they like and be girls without giving someone an erection, and most girls are just trying to fit in to that standard and that norm of being acceptable. Here’s how it is: I wear the clothes that I like to wear. I wear the clothes that I am drawn to, that I think are beautiful, that I feel good in. I wear the clothes for myself and nobody else. I am not asking for your attention, for your comments, for your questions, for your judgements, or for your assumptions. I am wearing what pleases me, regardless of whether it pleases you or not. It is not an invitation for you to talk to me, or for you to even look at me. If you think I am wrong, or that I am somehow using this issue to cover up my insecurities and attention-seeking wardrobe, you are part of the problem. 

The truth is, society is constantly feeding these ideas to us, so how do we fix it? What we can do is change society’s definition of normal and healthy sexual behaviour. If porn is acceptable, men’s current behaviour will be understood and even expected. Porn is acceptable because it’s private and personal, yet porn is still something you actively participate in by watching and something that alters your brain chemistry. Patterns are learned, behaviours develop, triggers are made. It doesn’t remain in the bedroom. We need to start actively creating that separation and not carry it with us when we interact with the opposite (or same) sex. We need to actively think of other’s as beings separate from our needs, wants, definitions and expectations, and not place our standards upon them. No one owes another person an explanation or the right to be apart of their lives. No one owes another person the validation for why they do the things they do that might offend you, especially when their intention was never to offend. You are not entitled to any one else’s being.